Sequel to the first two (2) episodes of Dangers of Bitterness series from the WODDI Woman Talk Show, episode 3 was educating and impactful, the discussion centered on bitterness within the family unit. The episode began with a recap of the previous two episodes; Overview of Dangers of Bitterness and Generational Bitterness by the anchor and the participants commenced discussions in earnest.
This show was hosted by H.E. Nneoma Nkechi Rochas Okorocha, anchored by Mr Fidelis Dalyop, and the panelists were; Hajia Zainab Mohammed (Ambassador for GOGAN), Reverend Simon Asemota, and Ustaz Nurudeen Abdulmalik.
In kickstarting the discussing, H.E. Nneoma Nkechi defined family bitterness as a feeling of being unsafe and tensions within the family, while Hajia Zainab described it as an unresolved family conflict that lingers and turns into bitterness. Rev. Asemota stated how bitterness manifests in different ways, some people are more passive about it while some are outright petty, because of their bitterness. In a home where the woman relies on the man, Ustaz Nurudeen said it is not unheard of for the woman to become bitter when the man begins to fail in his responsibilities.
In describing how family bitterness starts, H.E. Nneoma Nkechi Rochas Okorocha said that a common catalyst is favoritism within the family. When one child is treated better than the other, you leave one child feeling unloved, angry, with the potential to become bitter about their treatment in the home.
Bitterness affects the family in so many ways, the speakers recall personal experiences and, in a bid, to continue the healing process, issue of forgiveness was mentioned as a common denominator Hajia Mohammed stated that Africans are family-centric people, but because of family bitterness family members grow up without knowing one another; breaking the family bond and destroying family trees.
Children are the most vulnerable when it comes to family bitterness, they end up growing up to be destructive when they are nurtured in an environment that is a breeding ground for bitterness, as highlighted by H.E. Nneoma Nkechi Rochas Okorocha. It was also said, that, parents have a major role to play in ensuring they do not create an environment where bitterness can thrive. Ttherefore, they have to be conscious of their behavior and what they say around their family especially the children, as these children easily pick up on a lot of things adults do, without the adults knowing.
In the course of the conversation, solutions were proffered, and various speakers suggested workable resolutions in dealing with bitterness within the family unit. H.E. Nneoma Nkechi Rochas Okorocha cited how the woman can be the solution, she said the woman has to define what type of family they want to build and actively work towards achieving that. She also said the woman must be prayerful and teach her household to continually reference their faith.
From a religious perspective, Hajia Zainab urged people to take advantage of counselling from religious leaders, as faith plays a major role in overcoming bitterness, while Ustaz Abdulmalik encouraged the re-introduction of moral instruction to the education system.
As an organization into the nurturing of a better society, WODDI offers counselling services and is open to anyone who would like to speak with a trained counsellor about anything that burdens them to get closure and relief.
Watch out for the next episode focusing on Self Bitterness, which will be taking place on 3rd of September and aired on all our social media handles; Instagram, Facebook page, and Zoom.
Remember, bitterness is like eating poison and expecting someone else to die or burning your house down because of a rat. You get nothing positive out of bitterness and the only solution is to let go.
Let us all pay evil with good and not to allow ourselves to be tempted by bitterness, and we will see the world become a better place
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